Life and Times of Sasha Fierce

Archive for April 2010

i just returned from an incredible weekend in charlottesville. i was there judging 1L oral arguments, but really, how could i turn down a legit opportunity to get drunk with good friends in my favorite college town? spend time in my favorite college town?

and what a weekend it was! once l and i escaped the horrific traffic of dc, we pulled into cville and decided we’d spend friday night ambling around on the downtown mall. we ended up at blue light grill and decided we’d just “have a drink or two.” ah. should’ve known right there we were screwed. such famous last words.

two hours later, we are having a ball with our new BFFs — a group of ’90/’91 uva football/basketball players. two of whom we up for heismans. one of whom is the new asst. football coach at uva. such fun. such nice guys. and, who can complain when a group of handsome 40 year old men want to buy your bar tab? not l & i, that’s for sure! oh good, good times. especially when l declared that she thought the nicest one of our new BFFs had a lot of this (picture her rubbing her hand in front of her face in a circle) going on. oh and did i mention our nicest new BFF lives in durham (home of my original, always and forever BFF)? fun times.

then on saturday night, we celebrated l’s hockey team winning the nat’l championship by going to an 80s dance party. gloriousness. i seriously love 80s nights so much. oh and we pretty much ate every single delicious thing in cville. well, that’s not true. but i definitely gained about 5 pounds in 2 days. le sigh.  oh and we capped off the weekend by getting hit on by some guy at a random warrenton, va gas station. this guy (his name is joshua, allegedly) promised me VIP status in clubs, happy hour discounts and…gym memberships? so weird. i swear, sometimes there is something written on my head that says “if you are a freak, talk to me!”

all in all, a totally successful weekend.


this really isn’t about a sunday kind of love, but i’m listening to etta james and figured she deserved some props. 🙂

anyway, i have this facebook friend request sitting on my homepage and i’m doing my best to ignore it. it’s from this guy who i may have spoken of before…he was basically my first love / big mistake (aren’t they all) and while i always knew he was bad for me, it took me awhile to completely untangle myself from him. the Ex and i got in many (huge) fights about this dude (let’s call him Bama). in fact, it got so ugly that the Ex threatened to break up with my if i didn’t stop being friends with Bama. of course, that didn’t work because ultimatums rarely do. anywho, suffice to say that Bama was bad news and i haven’t spoken with him in a long time. mainly because i am very nervous about getting caught up in his dramatic, over the top, irresponsible life again. it’s been difficult because i cared about Bama SO much. he is a beautiful person and i am curious about what’s going on in his life.

BUT i know myself. and i know that once we start talking again, it’s just a matter of time before i’m spiraling down into the depths of his inability to function. and i just can’t do that to myself. but then a part of me thinks maybe he’ll be better now? maybe he’s finally gotten himself together and is acting like the man i think he could be? oh, i’m so conflicted. i know he’s bad news. but…what if he’s now good news? what if he has changed? what if things are different?

for right now, i’m going with my gut on this one and leaving his request unanswered. but i’ll be honest…i can’t promise it will stay that way. what if (god forbid) i could find my “sunday kind of love” with someone i’ve cared about since i was too young to know what it meant??

i had an excellent night last night. i went to dinner with LS BFF, her BF, l, lo and (unexpectedly) AHS. we had a table outside, a pitcher of margaritas and life was good! it was delightful. then, i had the great idea that i would turn the tables and start catcalling groups of men that were walking by. talk about amazing. i freaking love acting like a man! the men were so surprised when they realized i was hollerin’ at them. so cute. 🙂

then l and i went to patty boom boom for some reggae music. it’s a total sweatbox in that place, but we had a good time. the rum punch is a-ma-zing! kind of strong, but totally delicious. AND the bartender was HOT. so…i did what any red blooded gal would do and left him my number on the bill. and he has been texting me all day! it’s pretty funny because now i can’t remember anything about him except he was hot. and i never introduced myself so he has no idea who he’s texting. but it’s kind of fun.

i blame all of this on spring fever. yelling at men! leaving numbers for bartenders! what can i say – it’s finally nice out!!


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